----- Original Message ----- From: "Nytemuse" <nytemuse at auros.org> To: "Dragaera Mailing List" <dragaera at dragaera.info> Sent: Friday, August 16, 2002 2:51 PM Subject: Re: OT: Subjectivity vs. Objectivity (was: bois...) > On Fri, 16 Aug 2002, Scott Ingram wrote: > > > "Relationship" is a case of deliberate vagueness, and as such is very > > > useful. Most people neither need *nor want* to know "Susan and I > > > screw like minks on every flat surface at every opportunity". I think > > > this vague use of "relationship" is generally understood to mean > > > "ongoing emotional/sexual entanglement". A one-night stand is not a > > > relationship. > > > > There's certainly a case to be made for deliberate vagueness, even when the > > result is misleading. > > Especially in the case of polyamorous people. If you are poly and in a > relationship or two, and flirting with someone who you are not quite sure > is into polyamory, you don't want to use "boy/girlfriend" because they may Heh, shouldn't that be 'boi/girlfriend"? > assume you're taken. At least, you don't want to say it before you get a > chance to explain. I've been known to say "roommate" when discussing > stories involving my primary (which is true, as we do live together) and > then once I'm fairly confident they're cool with it, I'll change it out > for boyfriend or primary. > > ****** > NyteMuse I could be mistaken (HAH!) but people in monogamous relationships have been known to do that as well... at least until they've figured out how interested they are in the new prospect. -Scott