Thomas Yan <tyan at twcny.rr.com> writes: > Steven Brust <skzb at dreamcafe.com> writes: > > -snip- > > The reason I like the term, however, is that it doesn't, so far as I > > know, mean, "that disgusts me." It more means, "I don't care for > > that." > > In my experience, it means "that freaks me out / disturbs me a lot", > which is much stronger than "I don't care for that", and thus is > closer to "that disgusts me". I think of it as "that disgusts me, glad you like it" or some such. I *do* think it indicates a fairly strong negative reaction. > > In other words, it is a way to say, "I have no interest in that > > activity," without saying, "ICK. YUCK! YOU MUST BE *SICK*." This > > is especially important if the latter is what you're actually > > thinking. > > I think I would agree, however, that indeed it does not necessarily > convey "that freaks me out, therefore if you [like it] / [aren't > bothered by it] there is something wrong with you". On ASB, where it > apparently was first used on Usenet, I think a mantra was -"that is > not my kink, but your kink is ok"-. My canonical version is "Your kink is ok, but it is not my kink". > > I believe Miss Manners would thoroughly approve of the term. > > Heh. She might well. Although it's pretty honest for her. -- David Dyer-Bennet, dd-b at dd-b.net / http://www.dd-b.net/dd-b/ John Dyer-Bennet 1915-2002 Memorial Site http://john.dyer-bennet.net Dragaera mailing lists, see http://dragaera.info