Dragaera

OT: Subjectivity vs. Objectivity (was: bois...)

Chris Olson - SunPS Chrisf.Olson at Sun.COM
Mon Aug 19 11:59:43 PDT 2002

> On Fri, Aug 16, 2002 at 01:29:03PM -0500, David Dyer-Bennet wrote:
> 
> > "ongoing emotional/sexual entanglement".  A one-night stand is not a
> > relationship.  Being married for 20 years is a relationship.  Being
> > engaged is a relationship even if you haven't gotten into sex yet.  So
> > "lover" isn't right (and is still Too Much Information in many
> > contexts), "fiancee" is wrong these days, "significant other" means
> > close to the same thing but is longer.

I'll agree a one-night stand is not a relationship, at
least how I think of the term.

But out of curiosity, can a friendship be a relationship,
or do I have a relationship with a friend?  What about
long-term dating with or without sexual entanglement?

As a person who defines myself as polyamorous, I'm
always hard-pressed to "define" my relationships with
others.  Are we boyfriend/girlfriend?  Lovers?  Dating?
Casual "friends with fun-stuff on the side"?  

"Relationship" is vague, but it holds less stigma* than other
words, and it's hard enough explaining multiple loving partners
to people as it is... :)

* - May be the wrong word, but I've been told I'm a master
malapropist, so at least I have a lame excuse...<grin>

Chris

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