Dragaera

OT: Subjectivity vs. Objectivity (was: bois...)

Chris Olson - SunPS Chrisf.Olson at Sun.COM
Mon Aug 19 12:43:57 PDT 2002

David Dyer-Bennet responded with:
> "Relationship" has varying contextual meanings.  Certainly friendship
> *is* a relationship in one sense.  So is being enemies.  But in other
> contexts, which includes most contexts where you actually talk about
> the relationship by name, no, you don't have "relationships" with your
> friends.  It's even used for humor now and then, having somebody refer
> to "his relationship with X" and have people make the assumption that
> he means the "emotional/sexual entanglement" definition when he
> doesn't. 

I generaly use the term to mean a "long-term dating"
involvement.  Though I should probably say, instead
of long-term, "as long as the relationship lasts"  I've
been in very serious "relationships" that have only lasted 
10 months... :)

> I've just spent the weekend at my 30th highschool class reunion
> avoiding going into that.  Only one of my close friends was there, and
> he either already knows or there'll be a chance to explain later.  

Heh.  I usualy just try to avoid the issue entirely.  I'll
use "friend" or "girlfriend" or the persons name (dear god, no!:)
and just skirt the issue as best I can.  It's easier than getting
into a huge discussion.  :)

> Around here we use "sweetie" a lot.  

See, that works.  But I tend to use that term, and others like
it, for most anyone I care about, whether or not I'm dating
them.  (See also: "love", "darling", etc.) ;)

> > * - May be the wrong word, but I've been told I'm a master
> > malapropist, so at least I have a lame excuse...<grin>
> 
> Sorry, you got that one right :-)

Dagnabbit!  <sigh>  Oh well.  I'll have to try again
sometime...

Chris
"Life is the nightmare that leaves its mark upon you
in order to prove that it is, in fact, real."
	-Thomas Ligotti- 'The Sect of the Idiot'