Dragaera

Whip me, Daddy

David Dyer-Bennet dd-b at dd-b.net
Thu Feb 17 10:40:51 PST 2005

John Klein <zarkon at illrepute.org> writes:

> On Wed, 16 Feb 2005, Paul Echeverri wrote:
>
> @> >You know, I think most of the BDSM enthusiasts I know would disagree with
> @> >you. Although, honestly, it's difficult or perhaps even impossible to
> @> >disentagle genetic predisposition from behavioral conditioning anyway.
> @> >
> @> With respect, most BDSM enthusiasts are not credible sources of
> @> information about the psychology of their enthusiasms.
>
> Fair enough. Our two 'mosts' may not overlap there, though.
>
> @> There is a significant membership overlap between Usenet sexual abuse
> @> recovery newsgroups and BDSM newsgroups. This overlap is either never
> @> discussed or its interest hotly denied, sometimes to the point of
> @> absurdity -- I recall at least one claim that the poster's abuse had
> @> *nothing to do* with their BDSM interests, while discussing a 'scene'
> @> that closely replicated the circumstances of the abuse as described in
> @> the recovery newsgroup.
>
> On the other hand, I have personal knowledge of several members of this
> community who have not been abused, or even severely traumatized, at any
> point in their lives. That's not to say that childhood abuse can't be a
> source of sadistic or masochistic behavior (it would be foolish to deny
> that), simply that I'm not willing to say "all BDSM behavior is based on
> childhood trauma", since counterexamples exist. "All BDSM behavior is
> psychological" is even more difficult. If I like a certain flavor of
> potato chips, is that because my parents got them one time for that really
> great birthday party when I was seven, or because my taste buds happen to
> react well to their components? Or is it even a clear-cut case of
> either/or?

And a number of the people *I* know in the community find the possible
connection between abuse and BDSM both specifically and generally
fascinating; not something to be denied without consideration.
-- 
David Dyer-Bennet, <mailto:dd-b at dd-b.net>, <http://www.dd-b.net/dd-b/>
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